Bottled Emotion

Emotion is the name we give to our behaviour. Behaviour is the name people give our actions. For every action, there was an issued command. And every issued command is a response to every received action.

Whenever anyone, be it your boss, parent or friend vent on you their anger, always know and remember -- the anger is not for you. It wasn't your fault, you only triggered their brain by your behaviour. You made their brain remembers a certain thing which they are unconscious of too.

Take for example, you boss's wife who he really loves, cares and could kill for, was discovered to be involved in extramarital affair the night before. Your boss has been thinking of this throughout the night. He didn't yelled at the wife throughout the night -- he was nodding YES throughout the night as his wife was begging.

On getting to work the next day, you went unknowingly to his office to demand for a raise in your salary. You know him so well  he would be glad to give you the raise or sit you down to explain why it is not possible at the moment.

But to your surprise! He yelled at you in a manner you have never seen him in before, using words you've never heard him use too. In fact he told you "You are the most stupid employee ever in here, I am been trying my best not to fire you since you've been here. And if you don't get out of my office right now, it takes me nothing to order the draft of your pink letter".

"What?!" How could he say such thing to you. You have known him to always praise your commitment to the company and job well done.

Oga! The anger is not meant for you. His brain is processing everything in negative. He trusted his wife so much, now she is unfaithful. Also, every positive thing to his brain should not be trusted, instead negated.

The anger is not meant for you, it is a BOTTLED EMOTION.

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