How to Handle Regrets

Regret is part of life. It is an evidence that you exist; an evidence that you are truly human. It signifies that you have conscience. And no human, no matter how brutal they might be is without conscience. Conscience can never be killed; it can only be suppressed.

Cogito ergo sum – Rene Descartes

Translation: I think therefore I am

Conscience is our silent soul but the number one

 noise maker in the class of integrity – Trivalence

There are two kingdoms of regrets, depending on the way the regret is being handled:

1.       Hell of regret and

2.       Heaven of regret.

HELL OF REGRET

This is the kingdom of regret most people find themselves. Its population and predicted future immigrant exceed that of regrets heaven by more than 1000%. Folks in this kingdom have no reason of being thankful for those things that got them there in the first place. They are the best candidate to vie for the post of the President of suicide nation. No wonder the high rate of suicide.

Hey! Regret is nothing more than what it is. It has happened, there is nothing you can do about it, but you can do a lot about how you feel about it. The memory will live with you forever, no doubt about that – it is your (5 Minutes Mistakes). But the emotion you associate with the memory can be changed. Come on, everybody has made a mistake at a stage in their life’s and some will still make. The good news is that, there are people out there whose mistakes is worse than yours. You want to know how worse, your mistakes are too minor to be compared with theirs’. They could handle it and still live happily by just changing their paradigm.

Don’t let your mistake compel you to the hell of regret. It is your past. Nobody live in the past. That is why the calendar changes everyday. Live the present. The past is gone. Focus on who you could become, forget who you were in the past. Do you know why ‘ed’ ends most past tense? It is because, the word ‘N’ which represents ‘NEVER’ was removed from ‘END’. Instead of saying the past never ends, it means the past has ended. Treat presently differently. That shows you are a different person.

HEAVEN OF REGRET

Only few gets the opportunity of entering this kingdom. These are people who even though still has the memory of their mistakes, has changed the emotion they accompany with it. They are the few who are grateful for their mistakes.

Check any successful man; let them tell you their life odyssey so far, then you will discover they have had a down time in their life. A time they went into hibernation. It is a time they were compelled in the hell of regret kingdom. But something separated them from others who has being in the same situation before and after them; they were able to change the emotion they associate with their mistakes and regret memory. They became thankful for what happened to them. Life only method of teaching who it would make great it by making him/her fail. Even fail often until he/she learns.

Be grateful for all the challenges thrown your way. They are needed to build the muscle you would be needing to carry tomorrow’s load. Never say quit, until the last breath – and the last breath never comes until you succeed. So why the fear? You are more than your situation. You are greater than what you see yourself to be.

Click to read How to handle mistakes.